Overcoming the affects of bullying!

Today's children face a great amount of emotional challenges in home and in school life. On many occasions parents have no clue that their child is experiencing emotional challenges. Often parents are consumed with work and spend little time discerning the subtle emotional signs that their children display. Just as one would be in tuned to their mates when they are emotionally consumed; you can clearly see that something is going on and you find ways to open the door of communication to resolve the concern. This approach must be taken with children also. Many times children will not willingly discuss any emotional challenges as they may fear being judged or condemned. It is our job as parents to establish and keep a open line of communication. This often requires trust. If parents don’t actively become involved in keeping a open line of communication they simply won’t share and will adopt a life of secrets with poor decisions. Most children are under developed in their ability to solve problems or have a lack of understanding on how to work through many of their emotional challenges. As parents it is our responsibility to channel coping strategies and basic life skills into our children.

We understand we have a rising problem in today’s schools...BULLYING!!! Many children don’t know how to find or seek out an advocate to ensure safety so they take the situation in their own hands, as they internalized their emotions while depression consumes them; which can lead to a common immature decision to take their own life in suicide or harming themselves. This is devastating on all levels! Some parents may be aware of their child being bullied and make efforts through the school to alleviate the problem; although parents will need to go even farther to secure their child’s emotional stability against the effects of bullying.

We as parents have the first opportunity to shape and mold our children into their God given identity. We understand the world can be harsh and grueling, however we all must have a mental exit plan. We must know who we are and understand that we are fearfully and wonderfully made in His image!

“For you fashioned my inner most being, you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I thank you because I am awesomely made, wonderfully; your works are wonders — I know this very well. “Psalms 139:13-14‬ ‭CJB‬‬”

Meaning every part of your character, personality, skin tone, body shape, height, weight and hair texture is wonderful and you are an original sensation that has been introduced in the earth! I like the last part as it reads; “I know this very well!” It is imperative for an adult or child to believe they are awesomely made! When I was young I would often get teased about being dark-skinned. I would cry with each insult, then one day I walked away to myself crying saying; “why do they always talk about me?” You see what they were talking about was something that I could not change, alter or correct. It was who I was! My skin complexion was apart of my originality and how God expected me to be expressed in the earth. So while I was standing alone crying I heard a voice say; “they are only teasing you because they know they will make you cry”. Instantly, I said to myself “I will not cry anymore!!”

What happen there?!! God spoke to me as a little child, I didn’t know it at the time, but God redirected my image of myself for me to see myself as being wonderful and beautiful; just the way I was. God allowed me to recognize the attack and showed me how it was affecting me. From then on when they began to call me names; I would reply; “oh you’re just jealous because your skin is not as pretty as mine”. I began to express myself by confessing who I believed I was; and rejecting the words they were saying about me and not embracing the words of an immature #bully that was simply looking for a laugh from others. I continued to respond in this manner and most of the dark-skinned jokes ceased, all the others just seemed to roll off because I began to believed my own confession of myself; “my skin is pretty!”

So we understand that we must teach our children their worth. Teach them that other children may say mean words to insinuate that’s who they are. But they are insinuating a false image of them, no matter what type of clothes you wear or how you look a child needs to believe in their own worth! As parents we need to install this into them when they are young; you see confidence is built and established by our confession. As parents we should encourage our children in their abilities and gifting. In addition, let them know how beautiful or handsome they are while complimenting them on their individualized uniqueness. Be the very first voice of confidence and justification your child hears and grows to believe. No two people are the same, every child should leave their home with an understanding that another person's differences don't make them less than or inadequate. As the child grows they will imitate their parents confession about them; the child will soon become who you say they are and will ultimately repeat and believe in who you confess them to be; great in the earth, an over comer, beautiful, handsome, smart, gifted and so forth.

The world will critique, criticize, judge and/or even ridicule you; these are all set ups, known as road blocks to prevent you from walking in your purpose as they leave you wondering if you are good enough! Let your children know they are indeed a powerful-needed-force in the earth. Establish them in God’s truth concerning their identity, purpose and calling to prevent them from falling victim to the lies told by someone that has a bleeding heart themselves. Ask them if they have ever encountered being called names at school or notice any other children being called names or picked on. Then steer them in the direction of truth and encourage them to be a leader. We know every parent won’t grab a hold of these truths although you can equip your child to become a “David” in another child’s life. Share this post and these truths with another parent, teacher or child. It takes a village to protect each other and it’s time for us to equip our children with Biblical principles to overcome these struggles that come with bullying.

When a child is groomed in self confidence or self worth they will have the ability to encourage others to embrace their own uniqueness. A bully is only as strong as their surroundings allow them to be. Every silent voice around a bully gives him/her strength. I have written a children’s book called “A Day with Josiah; Biblical Principles on Overcoming Bullying” that has now been released!

Check out my book selections and grab a copy for your child, a friend and/or a family member at https://www.mypassionconfessions.com. This book teaches children how to break down the strength of a Bully, just as David did against Goliath; with the help of God!

My Prayer Confession:

I release the sound of my voice in the atmosphere and I decree uncommon favor and abundance over my child’s life. I cancel every assignment of the enemy that is designed to trap them. I bind all deceptions that would appear to them as a good thing. Lord send your Warring Angel to destroy every hindering spirit that would try to derail them from your righteous ways. Lord I release your goodness and prosperity in their lives. Send the prosperity Angel to bless them. I lose discernment and wisdom so their decisions will produce a peaceable and profitable fruit. Be a shield and a buckler around them at school and home. Be the light to their path, the strength of their stride and wholeness to their health. Let the force of your presence guide them to their divine purpose and destiny. I rejoice because you have declared them blessed. My soul is satisfied as I give them back to you. Lord be the defender of all roads that lead to their life’s purpose and identity. I declare that they will journey well. In Jesus name.

~ My Passion Confessions

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